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post #1 of 23 (permalink) Old 02-09-2020, 08:36 AM Thread Starter
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Iím a 48yo married man, good shape, been married 15 years now and have had a problem with PE almost all my life. Iím just looking for success stories from guys who have overcome PE. Thank you for your help!
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I would only imagine that there are plenty of resources for that right here online!

Just Google "Premature Ejaculation Cures!"

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Hi guys,
Iím a 48yo married man, good shape, been married 15 years now and have had a problem with PE almost all my life. Iím just looking for success stories from guys who have overcome PE. Thank you for your help!
Iím not a guy but like Arb said, there are lots of videos and resources online for this.

I did have a female friend whose husband had this issue. The way they handled it was to just go twice. The first time, he would pop off quick. Then they would rest a minute, and then he would spend a lot of time pleasuring her until he got aroused again. The second time he was able to last much longer and they were both happy with this way of working it out.

Another suggestion Iíve heard is for you to simply masturbate shortly before sex so that when you do have sex you can last longer.

These suggestions wonít cure the problem but they will help you have sex for longer at least.
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Re: Premature ejaculation cure?

Viagra (or similar) may help, for two reasons. First, it decreases sensitivity. Second, because your refractory period may shorten significantly, you may have less anxiety about popping off too quickly and last longer. And if you still go too fast, the second time will be almost assured, and almost assuredly take longer. I know first-hand because I have to take it for a different medical condition, and generally try to avoid it prior to sex.
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Iím not a guy but like Arb said, there are lots of videos and resources online for this.

I did have a female friend whose husband had this issue. The way they handled it was to just go twice. The first time, he would pop off quick. Then they would rest a minute, and then he would spend a lot of time pleasuring her until he got aroused again. The second time he was able to last much longer and they were both happy with this way of working it out.

Another suggestion Iíve heard is for you to simply masturbate shortly before sex so that when you do have sex you can last longer.

These suggestions wonít cure the problem but they will help you have sex for longer at least.
Iíve had a couple girls that were friends ask me about what they can do to help their partners with this.

My answer was to give them a BJ first if they want some longevity.

For the most part, that seems to have worked. At least they stopped complaining about it. Their boyfriends seemed happy, too.
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Thank you everyone for the input so far. I have literally tried everything under the sun to combat this problem except the mighty blue pill. I will have a talk with my Dr. this week. Thanks again!!
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Thank you everyone for the input so far. I have literally tried everything under the sun to combat this problem except the mighty blue pill. I will have a talk with my Dr. this week. Thanks again!!
What about wearing a condom? Does that help? Have you tried? Since youíre married thereís no reason to wear one but they definitely do make most men last longer.
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Iím a 48yo married man, good shape, been married 15 years now and have had a problem with PE almost all my life. Iím just looking for success stories from guys who have overcome PE. Thank you for your help!
Long-term: Kegel exercises and stop jacking off. The Kegels will allow you to pinch it off. When you jack off, you are training yourself to get off as fast as possible, usually in the shower.

Short-term: SSRI's. They delay ejaculation. A PCP friend of mine told me years ago that he had a regular stream of young men looking for Viagra and Prozac.

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What about wearing a condom? Does that help? Have you tried? Since youíre married thereís no reason to wear one but they definitely do make most men last longer.
Especially the ones for delayed ejaculation. Had got some of those in a variety pack before. Uhhhhh they definitely work.

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In my youth my girlfriend has a very cute roommate. The roommate had a boyfriend who had a pre-mature ejaculation problem. She asked me what I would recommend. I told her to tell the guy that she was flattered that he found her so arousing that she could make him cum without touching him. To cuddle him and after a while say to him that she wanted to show him that she could be even more arousing than he ever imagined. That seemed to do the trick.

I think that PE can be one of the vicious cycle kinds of things, but with the help of the right woman it can be overcome (pun intended).
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Didn't have a PE issue before, I was more or less average in ejaculation time.

I got on anxiety and BP meds after taking a job outside of my wheel house. One of the side effects of the anxiety medication is ED and that's the one I drew. It hit me hard (pun intended). I talked to my PCM and he put me on Viagra. It definitely solved the ED immediately but one of the positive side effects is I can last an exceptional amount of time for me. Like I'm pretty sure if I wanted, and with some key position/activity changes...who knows how long.

So yes, if you can, give Viagra a try.
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Hopefully this question is not a thread hijack, but what would a woman generally prefer? Having sex multiple times or having the man last much longer?
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Hopefully this question is not a thread hijack, but what would a woman generally prefer? Having sex multiple times or having the man last much longer?
Really looking forward to the female perspective on this.

My wife and I, with four kids and jobs to do in the morning, are done once I get mine. I can speculate that if we were on vacation, in a hotel, in a bed that she didn't have to change the sheets on, would be more inclined to keep going after my first O. Don't take this to mean I'm rushing the experience, just that the finale is typically my orgasm after her having one or many.

With a couple exceptions, the times we have had continued sex after I ejaculated the first time, were not particularly the most satisfying, nor was the end result fun to deal with. Personally, I don't like it that much either if I am honest. Sh!t starts to get tacky, and it just doesn't feel all that great.

The exceptions are those no holes barred type nights.
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Hopefully this question is not a thread hijack, but what would a woman generally prefer? Having sex multiple times or having the man last much longer?
Really looking forward to the female perspective on this.

My wife and I, with four kids and jobs to do in the morning, are done once I get mine. I can speculate that if we were on vacation, in a hotel, in a bed that she didn't have to change the sheets on, would be more inclined to keep going after my first O. Don't take this to mean I'm rushing the experience, just that the finale is typically my orgasm after her having one or many.

With a couple exceptions, the times we have had continued sex after I ejaculated the first time, were not particularly the most satisfying, nor was the end result fun to deal with. Personally, I don't like it that much either if I am honest. Sh!t starts to get tacky, and it just doesn't feel all that great.

The exceptions are those no holes barred type nights. <a href="https://talkaboutmarriage.com/images/TAMarriage_2015/smilies/tango_face_devil.png" border="0" alt="" title="Devil" >:-)</a>
I’ve not dealt with a PE situation for a long time. But I have enjoyed lots of times doing it more than once in a night.

For me, we both need to rinse off after the first go round. That solves what I think you mean by things getting tacky. It just takes a moment, then you can cuddle and have after glow until the moment strikes again.

Not saying I speak for other women though. This is a specific question I haven’t ever asked any of my friends. The one friend I mentioned in an earlier post didn’t really specify what all occurred between times other than that he focused on her pleasure until he sprang back to life. I assumed she meant he gave her oral but I didn’t ask. Also didn’t ask if she washed up first.
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Yes, we do it more than once quite often...I put myself in a box so to speak and was speaking towards those just keep getting it nights or moments. Or times when I did O first but we kept going.

Yes the cleaning off thing is a must, which is what we do.
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