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post #1 of 71 (permalink) Old 10-13-2018, 10:03 AM Thread Starter
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In Defense of my Flirting Wife

First of all, I like to state I love my wife and her and I are happily married.

My wife, (Kelly), and I meet in college and I was drawn to her outgoing vibrant flirting personality and her fantastic body, blonde hair, and cute face.

My male friends kept forewarning me, Kelly is not the type girl I should date and heaven forbid marry due to her being too much of a flirt, having dated too many guys, and showing off her body too much.

Kelly and I married for who we each are, not to try to make changes in each other.

Of my male college friends who were wrong in telling me not to marry Kelly, are either divorced or unhappily married, whereas Kelly and I are very much in love and happily married.

To this day Kelly is very much of a flirt with men and that is just an extension of who she is as a person, vibrant and fun loving, all of which I fully accept.

Both Kelly and I, keep in shape with her being in fantastic shape. My wife's hobby and passion is to enter one or two bikini contest a year to show off her dedication to working out, nutrition, and fantastic physical attributes.

Are my wife's bikinis skimpy and revealing? Yes, very much so, from thongs that place her rear on public display to the tops that barely cover her boobs. But the bottom line her and I are very happy together and have left my negative college buddies to wallow in their disappointing marriages or state of divorce.

The fitness center my wife and I are members have a large poster on display of my wife in a bikini from her most recent contest she had won. Once again, the bikini reveals just about all of my wife's physical attributes and beauty......Yes but it also shows her hard work in training and nutrition and motivational for members of the club.

So after years of marriage, I love my flirty and exhibitionist wife and would not change on thing about her.

I would like to hear insights and feedback from other married couples with a wife thats tends to flirt and if it is a positive or negative.

Thanks from Wesley and Kelly

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Awww....cute couple story!!

Welcome to TAM!

I don’t know what kind of responses you’re going to get here. Some posters may have some negative things to say so be forewarned.

I’ve been in relationships where my guy liked showing me off in various ways. But I’ve also been in a relationship where my guy definitely did not want me to blatantly show off or flirt. Both types of relationships were fun for me.

In the relationship where there was no showing off, my guy made me feel like his secret treasure that he was protecting at all times. That felt amazingly wonderful! But in the other relationships where there was showing off, that was fun (and innocent) good times too and I knew those guys did not want to swing or whatever. They just liked other guys drooling over me while they saw me with him.

To me, whatever a couple does that they both enjoy is all good.
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Re: In Defense of my Flirting Wife

Personally I feel like too much flirting and need for sexual attention could be a sign of issues. The need for external validation is probably one of the most common reasons people stray. Especially when someone gets older and starts to loose the same volume of attention that they may have had in the past. They may push the envelope to continue to get such validation. Also if ones partner is not as attentive. But it doesn't have to be and people who don't flirt do this too. I personally feel it's disrespectful to my spouse, which is why I don't do it. I get that everyone is different though. At it's very base flirting is sending subtle mating signals saying (I am interested in pursuing something with you) so if you are married not sure why you would want to do that with someone else. Then again lots of married men and women go to strip clubs, in my mind it's all sexual titillation with someone who is not your spouse. Plus when you are on a diet why go to the doughnut store and stair at the donuts, pick up the donuts, smell the donuts? Just doesn't make sense to me.

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God gave us free will. Good luck.

Do you flirt? The fact that your first post on a message board called talk about marriage says to me you are not as cool with it as you want to think you are.

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Re: In Defense of my Flirting Wife

Many things come to mind reading this post. First off, why do you feel the need to defend your flirting wife, unless you feel someone is attacking her? Second off, your handle and your sign off, is indicative of a sadly co-dependent relationship. Thirdly, throughout the entire post you brag about your wife as if you are trying to convince yourself that it is OK and the fact that you are looking for validation is evidence of that.
Each of us is free to live the life of our choosing. So good luck to you. I hope it lasts. But I have to wonder why someone would seek out a forum such as this to expose your life to it.
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While I don't understand @Ynot 's tone, I never thought of those questions, and they are interesting.

For me, I like showing off my GF's a lot. She is sexy and conservative, but of course not conservative in the bed room.

We have a group of friends with some single older guys, that really wanted to date her, and in a way they are all so green with envy that it makes me laugh.

None of them had a chance with her anyway, she needed Mr. Wonderful (me) to come and sweep her off her feet. All of those guys were *****s and were just to scared to ask her out. (LOL). I think the are pathetic and funny, nice enough to have a drink with, but just not really strong people or men.

But, yes I enjoy having her on my arm, I enjoy showing her off.

She can flirt all she wants and all the guys can look, but the first one that lays a hand on her gets stomped. I have had to do it a couple of times. Not a problem for me.

Interesting thread though and kind of strange...
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While I don't understand @Ynot 's tone, I never thought of those questions, and they are interesting.

For me, I like showing off my GF's a lot. She is sexy and conservative, but of course not conservative in the bed room.

We have a group of friends with some single older guys, that really wanted to date her, and in a way they are all so green with envy that it makes me laugh.

None of them had a chance with her anyway, she needed Mr. Wonderful (me) to come and sweep her off her feet. All of those guys were *****s and were just to scared to ask her out. (LOL). I think the are pathetic and funny, nice enough to have a drink with, but just not really strong people or men.

But, yes I enjoy having her on my arm, I enjoy showing her off.

She can flirt all she wants and all the guys can look, but the first one that lays a hand on her gets stomped. I have had to do it a couple of times. Not a problem for me.

Interesting thread though and kind of strange...
But then, you didn't seek out an internet forum and make your first post one about defending your flirting wife, now did you?
I appreciate having a nice looking, sexy, confident woman by my side as much as the next guy. I enjoy walking into a place and having every guy in the room eyeballing her but knowing she is with me.
But there is a difference between enjoying that and feeling the need to defend someone who has not been attacked. I didn't see where anybody attacked her, did you? The guy is either attention seeking or lacks confidence and is seeking validation. But that is my opinion so I should probably just let it go, because I don't want one of you internet tough guys to report me to the mods and get me banned again.
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Who are you trying to convince dude,us or yourself?
Your wife likes to flash her ass and her boobs for the titillation of other men and you are posting here on a relationship advice site telling people how happy you are about it.
Her sense of self validation comes from her exhibitionist behavior,does she not have anything else in her life that makes her feel like a valuable member of society.Has she a career,have you children or would that have too much of an affect on her wonderful ass and tits.
What happens when she gets older and some younger woman’s poster goes up on the wall of your gym?
Will flirting still be enough or will it need to go further for her to retain her self belief that lots of men are lusting after her.
Grow ****ing up and pray the bimbo you married grows up too.
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I wonder how the women in your and your wife's social circles feel about her.
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I wonder how the women in your and your wife's social circles feel about her.
I own a health studio and most of my customers are women.We get a few of these Barbie doll lookalikes who come in with full makeup and spend more time making sure every guy in the place is looking at her than she actually spends working out.
I’m not complaining,they are making me money but most of the other customers look on them as a kind of mascot,someone who needs constant patting on the head and being told she looks great.
In fact their figures owe more to silicon than squats.
But as I said they are making me money so pose away.
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While I don't understand @Ynot 's tone, I never thought of those questions, and they are interesting.

For me, I like showing off my GF's a lot. She is sexy and conservative, but of course not conservative in the bed room.

We have a group of friends with some single older guys, that really wanted to date her, and in a way they are all so green with envy that it makes me laugh.

None of them had a chance with her anyway, she needed Mr. Wonderful (me) to come and sweep her off her feet. All of those guys were *****s and were just to scared to ask her out. (LOL). I think the are pathetic and funny, nice enough to have a drink with, but just not really strong people or men.
This sounds incredibly arrogant. Are you sure you're not just feeding your ego?


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I wonder how the women in your and your wife's social circles feel about her.
I'm not sure I'd appreciate a woman overtly flirting with hubby!
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Hello, from both Wesley and Kelly.

Please, no reason for name calling. We are both educated professionals with meaningful lives. I just happen to enjoy keeping my body in top condition through exercise and nutrition with the challenge of competing against other like minded females
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Hello, from both Wesley and Kelly.

Please, no reason for name calling. We are both educated professionals with meaningful lives. I just happen to enjoy keeping my body in top condition through exercise and nutrition with the challenge of competing against other like minded females
Around here we don’t need a reason for name calling.We do it free of all charges and delivery is also free.
But being an arrogant,egotistical,self promoting “professional” does give us plenty of ammo.
But hey! It’s quiet in my house today,everyone is out so I need the distraction.
Post on.
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Hello, from both Wesley and Kelly.

Please, no reason for name calling. We are both educated professionals with meaningful lives. I just happen to enjoy keeping my body in top condition through exercise and nutrition with the challenge of competing against other like minded females
First, using your real names might not be the best idea.

Second, do you ever consider how other women may feel about you flirting it up with their husbands?
Or are you one of those who thinks they ought to be able to hack it it and "it's not my fault their husbands like my rack"
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This sounds incredibly arrogant. Are you sure you're not just feeding your ego?
Gee, Brucy... I really don't give a crap what you think. My ego is full and fine, it stays full. My life is really great in so many ways. Thanks for asking.

My ego is based on facts. Fact, my GF is a beauty, and she is hot at 60 YO. And yes, all the little beta's at our favorite music venue, where I also play, were and are in love with her.

And yes I find it funny that they were all too chicken **** to ask her out. And I find it funny that they like me and kind of hate me because I took her off the market.

So yeah, it makes me feel good. I LIKE it, and I will continue to like it.

She would not be the first woman the I stole from a group of men that liked her, BTW, she is just the best one.

Sorry if that bothers you.......NOT.
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