I'm sure it contributed to why the first marriage didn't go well, yes. Along with other problems. They were just not a good fit in many areas overall.
MC seemed like an exercise in futility at the time, and looking back, still feels that way. Very little was gained. My wife had a hard time seeing where she could be wrong, even after being faced with it point blank by a professional.
She tells me she believes she's gotten all the help she feels like she needs. I'm sure I could use a little help too. The one IC I saw that I actually liked and saw as a fit, she got upset about me seeing because he wasn't a Christian and she felt as if he was actively trying to get me out of the marriage because he saw smoke and fire.
Let's say that everything you have said is as true and unbiased are you could possibly tell us what is going on.
I think it would follow that most of the advice, which is to admit it won't work, and move on is correct.
I think what you said in this post is quite telling and to me, it basically tells you what you already know and why you need to end it.
But when you have a counselor at whatever level, telling you that you are wrong, and you don't even entertain the idea that they may have a point, that kind of tells you where you are at.
Not that a therapist can't be wrong, because they often are, but then to heap on the fact that she is a professed Christian, and she has these issues with abuse of her husband, and children in the house, not to mention the disrespect overall....
Brother she has issues, big huge gaping issues, that you will never ever be able to fix.
It is time to get out of this marriage, it is bad for you...
And try to figure out how you got with a woman like this in the first place and don't ever do it again.