No, ask questions, thank you for being open.
So, she goes out with this friend at least every other week or more and sometimes out to a bar where she remains out until 2 am.
You both have full time jobs.
You both have separate bank accounts.
You both do work around the house.
You feel more should be done on her end before she parties.
You feel she is texting and connected to her phone too much.
So, you were hedging because your gut tells you she might be cheating.
Of course you like the disagreeing post because it absolves your wife of any responsibility.
Let me ask you this, do you stop her from:
Girl’s night out
Visiting her Family
Visiting her Friends
Having a Phone
Having access to any money
Having male friends
You do understand, contrary to popular belief, controlling is not always bad. If she spends as bad as you say, the finances need to be “controlled.” My wife can irresponsibly spend so, guess who is “controlling” the finances? Yep me.
Yes, my wife earns her own money, but WE pay bills, WE pay student loans, WE pay car repairs, WE mutually spent for the children at the time and I controlled those aspects. Responsible financial people can take care of finances, but not all people do this well, When we are good I ask no questions about what is left. Yet, if she needs help, the stipulation is I get to question her spending habits. Yes, it works both ways. Funny thing is, I rarely need help. Funnier than that, my “controlling” behavior has curbed her spending. She may still do it, but she works OT and rarely asks me for anything.
Also, whose idea was it to turn on the tracking app?
“I’m not going to leave them for the one thing they have done wrong, I’m going to stay with them for all the things they have done right”.
You know the problem with many movies, they are fiction.
It is a neat saying, but guess how the wife of the actual couple felt. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...-25-years.html
Heartbreak as couple, who inspired romantic drama The Vow after wife lost all memory in a crash and relearned to love her husband, are getting DIVORCED as she opens up about his infidelity
Sorry for the constant post, but what I did tell her last night, and I have told her many times, is how I look at our marriage. I see it as she is my number one. Everything I do affects her. I lay my head down next to her, I come home to her every night. There is not one person in the world that could be worth conflict between the two of us. Every decision I make, will change my way of life and hers. No matter what. The movie “The Vow” with Channing Tatum had one good line about a cheating spouse, “I’m not going to leave them for the one thing they have done wrong, I’m going to stay with them for all the things they have done right”.
No, do not show her any of this yet. There are very few couples who work on TAM together. Many, that I have witnessed, self destruct or both leave here angry. Let this be your space for questions and venting now, until you decide what you really want to do in your marriage.