Originally Posted by HotAirBaloon14 View Post
Dont know where to start. Been married for 7 years, together for 9. Past couple months wife has been talking about seperation and divorce. I have been a stay at home dad for past 3 years, now she says I am lazy and not the man she thought I would be. Cleaning up the house like I normally do I ran across petition for divorce paperwork she has started filling out. I have been working on myself since all this started, but it's been hard. I am in school part time, just started a new job, and last Monday was our anniversary.
That is a short post and there is a lot more to discuss. There are a few things that make what you are going through, but there are a few things that are typical.
A stay at home husband is vulnerable. Many women will like the idea, but as @She'sStillGotIt
says, the reality is rarely as cool. It can often be that they feel like they have taken the male role. It can be tempting to try to make up for this by working extra hard to impress.
This can be to mistake the issue.
Be a call ass manly man. Accept she is likely to divorce you fully. It is regretful, but you are not going to cry about it. Rise to the occasion and focus not on trying to stay married, but on being a great father and role model to your child. Consider that you have to take a different role, get the job to reflect you will need one or smash through the last bit of study and regain your identity.
The man she is likely to want will not be concentrating on his ill-fortune. He will be living up to a higher ideal as a Father. Consider the best (single) Father you can become to your child., and act like that person until you are him. It might well be that your wife falls in love with that man, she might not.