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post #61 of 67 (permalink) Old 12-10-2019, 12:01 PM
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Re: Hello everyone jim here going through though times.

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I understand too that she might have checked out already or is moving on but to the experts here my question is why is she not telling me clearly and simply that she's moved on? Why is she beating the bush? I am confused by that. The most she's said is she needs time
Is also to get back at you, but she's waiting for the other man to ask her to stay. So she's unsure if Tim will ask. It will never be what it once was, because she has been in another man's bed. And guess what you are 2nd on the priority list. It's just the way it is. Do you really want your woman back after she's given Tim the full Menu Sex, and more than you got. Because she reaching at straws now and is willing to give Tim more than she gave you. She just figuring out which deal she wants more.

But to you how are those mind movies going for you know she is doing it with and giving Tim, and others what was once only for you? Can you really swallow that, will she get checked for STDs, my guess is not. You just going where others have enjoyed the her and you'll be swimming in the pool you created.


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She's done with me good. But when her daughter gets molested in a home somewhere then my concern today will be revisited . And it happens way too often in this wolrd so i can't ignore that. I am concerned whenever my kids are introduced to another man especially my daughter if you can't understand that then you're probably a different type of parent
Man, what don't you get about what you said here, YOU! YOU! cause this and we are thinking if the kids, but your not just pay child support and hope this doesn't happen. You royally screw this up not her or the kids you did this. Own it and move on. Once your out if the picture your 11 yr old will ajust but you have to leave like yesterday.

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I will seat down with her in a few days and will see how things evolve. Divorce is on the table but my priority is what will benefit the kids most. My 11 years old is already having issues with it at school. She was called into school because of his behavior and they said he's been acting up because his parents are splitting. Decide to divorce her can be done in a matter of minutes. But the repercussions of it on the kids can last a lifetime. i get what a lot of people said here in that regard. I will seat her down ask how she would wanna move forward with this? People said on here counseling for both of us and willingness to make it work can be used but will be though. Therefore if she wanna go that route and forget about Tim i will see how we can make that happen. If she wants to continue with her affair then i will have no other choice but to get a divorce. I have done her wrong a lot i created this situation and now my hope is to get the best out of it for the kids. I've cheated too many times i reegret so much and wish i could take it back or even get out of my skin. There are days i feel so much shame at the damage that I caused and still causing that i am wondering how can i still function as a normal person. If she decides to follow that guy after our talk in a few days i will keep everyone posted and I will swiftly move on to divorce her and let her live her life.
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Full sex menu to Tim is what i have done with a lot of women out there n she took me back too many times. This put me in a position where her one mistake with one man still doesn't match my wrongdoings. The only part where it surpasses it is the fact that she took our daughter to his house. She has agreed that will never happen again. No kids near anyone or Tim. Now when i seat her down about the rest of the story as to leave Tim and start fresh in the state where i am or to keep on with that Tim relationship, that will be the real deal there. I have no intention of living in the same state as Tim however if am not with her then that will be on the table.
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I will seat down with her in a few days and will see how things evolve. Divorce is on the table but my priority is what will benefit the kids most. My 11 years old is already having issues with it at school. She was called into school because of his behavior and they said he's been acting up because his parents are splitting. Decide to divorce her can be done in a matter of minutes. But the repercussions of it on the kids can last a lifetime. i get what a lot of people said here in that regard. I will seat her down ask how she would wanna move forward with this? People said on here counseling for both of us and willingness to make it work can be used but will be though. Therefore if she wanna go that route and forget about Tim i will see how we can make that happen. If she wants to continue with her affair then i will have no other choice but to get a divorce. I have done her wrong a lot i created this situation and now my hope is to get the best out of it for the kids. I've cheated too many times i reegret so much and wish i could take it back or even get out of my skin. There are days i feel so much shame at the damage that I caused and still causing that i am wondering how can i still function as a normal person. If she decides to follow that guy after our talk in a few days i will keep everyone posted and I will swiftly move on to divorce her and let her live her life.
Can you expand on what your relationship is like with your children? I get the sense from your posts that you are not very involved in their lives besides sending money. Are you in contact on an almost daily basis?
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Yes i am in contact with them constantly. I talk to them almost everyday but they're kids sometimes they play and i just let them be but i ask their mom how they are very often. When they are out of school like recently i take them and spend time with them. It's during that time that they alerted me about a certain Tim.
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When Tim apparently got into the picture is during a time in which i didn't talk with her for about a month because we had a fight and she insulted me a lot so i just gave her space to cool off. During that time Tim stepped in according to her accounts
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