My husband & I have been together for 11 yrs/married for 6. We have had a pretty great relationship, hes always treated me like a queen, and we have a pretty darn good sex life lol. But its definitely had its bumps in the road... Trouble is, he's been addicted to porn/masturbating his whole life... He's gotten better, he doesn't look at porn as much as he used to. As far as masturbation, well I don't really know for sure, just what he tells me, & that's that he doesn't do it everyday anymore... But as far as the porn, whenever we have our kid free weekends, just us, we like to (don't judge pls) do some recreational party favors lol and kick back or do whatever. Well that's when he likes to look at it the most. And I usually tell him its ok, for just a little bit. Next thing you know, its been hours, and I want to snatch his phone & smash it. Ive only always said its ok to make him happy, so he's not "bored" and I don't feel obligated to entertain him lol.
But he also has the habit of being a hoarder... He'll save the pics/gifs he looks at. I check his phone sometimes, he'll have a couple hundred saved... Makes me sick. A few years ago , he had taken off his jeans to change, and while he stepped into bathroom, something was drawing me to that little pocket on his jeans. And what do I find... A micro SD card. When I got the time to look, it had at least 1,000 videos & pictures...
We've fought/argued so many times, and he'd use my addictions (had an opioid addiction, doing great now!) against me, said he didn't like it, but I wouldn't quit. Tried convincing him it wasn't near the same...the pills didn't make him feel like less of a husband!
We've argued so many times over the porn, but I'm just to the point where Idk what to do. Its going to he a battle to get him to quit, since its been a part of his life for so long.... But I can't see myself dealing with this, the way it makes me feel, for the rest of my life. But I love this man like no other!
One big thing that I've realized is, when it comes to sex, I don't think he's capable of maintaining slow love making... Yea, we have wild sex, its fun & I love it. But there are days where I just want that slow, sweet stuff. But 1-2 min in, and he's already speeding things up, goin faster. If he does slow down, his member goes back to sleep.... (I've read that's an affect of porn)
Im just so lost! I can't take this anymore. Even with the fact that he makes me feel like the most beautiful woman & I know he loves me, loves every part of my body... I just want to be the only one that turns him on. He doesn't understand what's so wrong with his addiction, "he's not cheating"....
But he also has the habit of being a hoarder... He'll save the pics/gifs he looks at. I check his phone sometimes, he'll have a couple hundred saved... Makes me sick. A few years ago , he had taken off his jeans to change, and while he stepped into bathroom, something was drawing me to that little pocket on his jeans. And what do I find... A micro SD card. When I got the time to look, it had at least 1,000 videos & pictures...
We've fought/argued so many times, and he'd use my addictions (had an opioid addiction, doing great now!) against me, said he didn't like it, but I wouldn't quit. Tried convincing him it wasn't near the same...the pills didn't make him feel like less of a husband!
We've argued so many times over the porn, but I'm just to the point where Idk what to do. Its going to he a battle to get him to quit, since its been a part of his life for so long.... But I can't see myself dealing with this, the way it makes me feel, for the rest of my life. But I love this man like no other!
One big thing that I've realized is, when it comes to sex, I don't think he's capable of maintaining slow love making... Yea, we have wild sex, its fun & I love it. But there are days where I just want that slow, sweet stuff. But 1-2 min in, and he's already speeding things up, goin faster. If he does slow down, his member goes back to sleep.... (I've read that's an affect of porn)
Im just so lost! I can't take this anymore. Even with the fact that he makes me feel like the most beautiful woman & I know he loves me, loves every part of my body... I just want to be the only one that turns him on. He doesn't understand what's so wrong with his addiction, "he's not cheating"....