Good evening
Some of the discussions of sexual problems tend to blend incompatibility and selfishness.
I think that they are quite different. It is possible for a couple to both be open to pleasing each other, but what they enjoy sexually is just very different. If one wants romance, candles and gentle lovemaking and the other wants handcuffs and rough fckng there may be very little common that they can both enjoy. This may in no way be the fault of either.
The other case is where one is just plain selfish - they don't care about their partner's wants, they only care about their own enjoyment in bed. This usually is seen in other parts of the marrige as well.
Of course (as with a couple I know), you sometimes get both.
Some of the discussions of sexual problems tend to blend incompatibility and selfishness.
I think that they are quite different. It is possible for a couple to both be open to pleasing each other, but what they enjoy sexually is just very different. If one wants romance, candles and gentle lovemaking and the other wants handcuffs and rough fckng there may be very little common that they can both enjoy. This may in no way be the fault of either.
The other case is where one is just plain selfish - they don't care about their partner's wants, they only care about their own enjoyment in bed. This usually is seen in other parts of the marrige as well.
Of course (as with a couple I know), you sometimes get both.