Something occurred to me about frequency in my own life. When I was married to my first wife, I knew very little about technique. I was in my early twenties. She was a few years younger.
I found that I had a tough time with initiating an orgasm in her. Yes, I had one every time, if I remember correctly. This was thirty years ago, after all. I wanted, desperately to be the initiator of her orgasms. I wanted her to find deep satisfying pleasure with me. At the same time, I really enjoyed having sex with her. I was the HD in that marriage.
A lack of perceivable orgasms in her only caused me with my HD and longing to be the initiator of them in her seemed to cause me to be even higher drive. It almost became an obsession for me to give her an orgasm.
What I am wondering due to all of that is this. Did my drive go up because I wasn't getting the full amount of chemical satisfaction from sex? Yes, I got some comfort from my own release, but I know, when she got her's, and, I got mine, it was so much more satisfying. I wonder if that wasn't the drive behind @Vega
's ex? Maybe he was HD to start with, because she was so attractive to him on a physical and chemical level, plus he subconsciously wanted her to get her's, so to speak? If she was getting her's, wouldn't that drive his need even higher?
I mean, it feels so good when both are satisfied and participating, chemically and physically, maybe those were the driving factors and not all of this men are pigs stuff? We are, or can be. It's that darn testosterone. I've tried to shut it down, but it isn't easy. I know it's also in women to varying degrees and those with higher test and lower naturally occurring female hormones, as in peri-menopause, many women will find their desire off the charts.
Just some thoughts. The easy answer is men are pigs.