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post #91 of 141 (permalink) Old 05-01-2019, 06:39 PM
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I know what maichi means, and I had no sexual issues in my past or childhood. I just wouldn't marry a guy who used that language or saw sex in that way.
Well lucky for the rest of us then that there are a lot of f**king fish in the sea.
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I don't know about wrong. I know that it is crude. I also know that if I had heard my then boyfriend using words like these randomly, I 100% would not have married him. The words just invoke low grade connotations in my mind and I would have had to be in that mode most of my life had I married someone who uses them regularly. WRONG is another level which may include a collective view. What I think about these words is by no means collective. It is a personal view which some may share.
And there is not a single thing wrong with your view, preference or approach.
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I think its pretty pathetic that people can't think of good ways to describe having sex with their partner or to ask their partner for sex without using words that are either cursing or swearing. Very uninventive.
I also think its pretty sad that someone who comes here who doesn't like using offensive language or their spouses using offensive and demeaning language gets so mocked. She has actually given me encouragement that there are some people left who still value sex as something so important and special and not something that has to be bought down to base level.
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@Diana7 I am going to try to say this as gently as I can but when you judge other people's sexual interests and language as "crude", "pathetic", "demeaning" and make claims that only your views and language are right and correct, you come off as a condescending stick in the mud. When you choose to judge others in a public forum don't be surprised when other's return the favor.
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@Diana7 I am going to try to say this as gently as I can but when you judge other people's sexual interests and language as "crude", "pathetic", "demeaning" and make claims that only your views and language are right and correct, you come off as a condescending stick in the mud. When you choose to judge others in a public forum don't be surprised when other's return the favor.
I agree with you about 500% ... except for the word crude. Does crude have such negative connotation? The OP referred to certain terms as crude. It does not seem objectionable to me.
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At our wedding reception, someone tried to be helpful because we weren't following protocol for the speeches.

This wasn't welcomed by my blushing bride who said to everyone around her "Whose ****ing wedding is it anyway?"

I said she really should save the dirty talk for when were alone later.

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I agree with you about 500% ... except for the word crude. Does crude have such negative connotation? The OP referred to certain terms as crude. It does not seem objectionable to me.
I see "crude" and think someone without manners or unpolished.

God help me if I have to start worrying about proper manners in the bedroom.
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I have read song of songs quite a lot. The words are erotic not crude or offensive.

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I know what maichi means, and I had no sexual issues in my past or childhood. I just wouldn't marry a guy who used that language or saw sex in that way.
That is a good way of saying what I have been saying. Thanks.
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I see "crude" and think someone without manners or unpolished.

God help me if I have to start worrying about proper manners in the bedroom.
It is more attitude to the deed than manners. To me if he is not interested in doing it, then there is no point doing it. I would like to do this lovely thing. If he starts having a base side deviant attitude about it he turns it into some other thing which causes me to also want to go and do some other thing. Like I said, I have no idea how I got here but I am here and I cannot be persuaded that the other place could be more exciting, as it obviously is for some. I also know that those terms do not feature in my daily vocabulary in any context.

I have heard people say the terms can be flexible and fit in a wide range of contexts.

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Well lucky for the rest of us then that there are a lot of f**king fish in the sea.
Might be the other way round in fact. Who knows where the majority lies. It seems to say the other way round to how you put this.

I think those in my sea just have a different perspective on what language to use when referring to sex between two people. Like I said before, It is not a right or wrong thing. Every couple have their own protocols when the doors are shut. Also the two may differ in views between them. There are many variables such as language, Expressions, time, Lights on/off, night clothes on/off, etc.

I have a friend who cooked and ate before her husband arrived home just so she could sit and watch him while he ate his food. she found watching him eat very exciting. Why do we do what we do? Who knows? Does it matter to anyone out there? Possibly not. But it should matter to the spouse.

Plenty in the sea indeed, tuna, cod, Mackerel, crabs, seals, coral, whales, barracuda, shark, dolphin, etc It would be odd if they all started behaving the same way.
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I think its pretty pathetic that people can't think of good ways to describe having sex with their partner or to ask their partner for sex without using words that are either cursing or swearing. Very uninventive.
I also think its pretty sad that someone who comes here who doesn't like using offensive language or their spouses using offensive and demeaning language gets so mocked. She has actually given me encouragement that there are some people left who still value sex as something so important and special and not something that has to be bought down to base level.
Thank you Maichi.
@MaiChi as well please
Please mark the acceptable words:
carnal knowledge
cohabitation
coition
coitus
copulation
coquetting
coupling
courting
courtship
cuddling
dalliance
fondling
fooling around
foreplay
fornication
hugging
intercourse
intimacy
kissing
lovemaking
marital relations
mating
nookie
nooky
procreation
relations
screwing
sex
sexual intercourse
sexual intercourse
sexual relations
sexual union
sleeping together
sleeping with
smooching
snuggling
sucking face

I apologize for any duplicates, I did try to weed them out.

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There is room in the breadth and depth of my life experience for both.

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Not to be picky but fornicate and copulate are not crude words for sex, they are proper English words. They are not pretty sounding but they are not crude. That is like saying vagina is crude. And fornicate means sex outside of marriage so one would not say that with their spouse.

I cringe at the term “make love” as well. I think of Eddie Murphy’s bit in Raw when he gets caught cheating and tells his wife “yeah I ****ed her, but I make love to you”. I guess I associate it with lies.

I don’t respond well to words like “boink”. Or my favorite phrase (used by both husbands btw) when I don’t feel well “you probably need a penisillin injection”. I don’t get upset, but it doesn’t make me want to have sex either. I like to have fun, but sex is serious business for me and the jokey stuff doesn’t work.

I thought about this after reading this post last night and realized we rarely use “crude” words to initiate sex. Once it has started they fly fast and loud, usually from me, but not to initiate. “I want you now”, “Bend over”, “we need to do laundry” (that one is code for a quickie in the basement when we have all of the kids). Now a well placed “I want to **** you” will get me every time. But “shag” will make me think of Austin Powers and that is not a turn on.

To each their own. But your reaction to your husband’s word choices caused me neck tension just reading this. I wonder what it is like for him? It IS a right/wrong thing for you and you have told him he is wrong by your reactions. You are claiming not to judge others but you are judging the person that is supposed to be closest to you. Where is his voice in this?
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How about changing things around and coming up with some polite euphemisms for hiding the monkey?
Adult nap time maybe?
Act of Darkness.

Getting one's canoe shellacked.

Going heels to heaven.

Jerking off with someone to talk to.

Assault with a friendly weapon.

Caulking the tub.

Battering the corn dog.

Bludgeoning the flaps

Opening the Gate To Mordor.

Patching the hatchet-wound

Getting up in them guts.

Release the Kraken!

Crab fishing in the Dead Sea.

Donkey-punching the Prom Queen.

Pressure=washing the wishing well.

Playing with the box the kid came in.

Jerking it where she's twerking it.

Disappointing the wife.

Wardrobe to Punarnia.

For the prunish in this thread - wittling the love branch.


Just so you know - polite is relative.

P.S. Bold-faced is Mrs. AandM's favorite.

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@Diana7 I am going to try to say this as gently as I can but when you judge other people's sexual interests and language as "crude", "pathetic", "demeaning" and make claims that only your views and language are right and correct, you come off as a condescending stick in the mud. When you choose to judge others in a public forum don't be surprised when other's return the favor.
I am really not worried what others think of me.
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