This thread was all about me.
Me asking another man about sex to possibly help improve my sexual relationship with my wife.
Anyone else that wants to help me possibly improve my sex life with my wife is more than welcome.
I invited him, he graciously accepted and others have both contributed and possibly benefitted themselves.
I don't want the man I asked to this thread to help me being grilled and challenged about statistics.
If he has advice that helps, and he does, that is all that is pertaining to this thread.
I opened this in the sex in marriage forum because I have an issue I would like to be helped with.
Social spot would have been a little more open for statistics vs. anecdotal stuff.
So Conan, you say that your wife is almost there. That tells me that a couple of things. One, she is not relaxed enough to allow her body to fully accept it. If that's the case, try and massage her first and tease her for a long time before anything. candles, colored lights, soft music, coconut oil does wonders. Maybe even lick all around the area but don't touch her there, more just palm above her thing upwards and kiss around.
Or two, you might have to do a couple other things that aren't a lot of fun for you:
If my wife is almost there, I can usually get here there by either grabbing her ass very firmly, lifting and squeezing it and firmly squeezing down her legs. Forcibly, but not painfully. Not saying this will work for your wife, but it does mine. Another thing is her tits are completely off limits until she's really horny, then if she's almost there, she needs hard stimulation on them. So soft bitting and licking works as well. Both of those things make me lose my erection if I don't concentrate really well (again, i'm older) and I'd rather not do them, but I do cause I know after I can do what I want and she's cool with it. But you have to remember to keep rocking with her, like dancing i guess just move in rythym with her body the whole time and like someone else said, keep the pace steady.
somebody mentioned something about me implying all women can orgasm with me. I didn't want to imply that, all I said was that I don't believe the 80% statistic. And yes, my population is probably very different than the next guy HERE, but not in my old circle of friends.
Conan mentioned he never been with a women who didn't like sex. That has been my experience also, however, many men on here say their wives don't like sex. So if someone said, statistically 80% of married women don't like sex, I would have called BS on that too.
I think affaircare said it well. I don't know the different zones and spots, I just know how to read a woman and that's not hard cause they tell you one way or another. I have never had a women actually achieve an orgasm through the so called G spot. I know it feels really good for them and I do it, but in my experience, it never itself led to an orgasm.