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View Poll Results: Does your partners sexual behavior change how you see them in real life
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post #196 of 363 (permalink) Old 10-04-2019, 07:20 PM Thread Starter
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Yea, I suspect the only new sexual activities invented in the last couple thousand years involve new technology (electricity or zero gravity or something).

Zeus was said to have seduced women in the from of satyr, swan (?), dove (?), eagle(?) Bull (!), ant (???), Female goddess, and golden shower (um..). Which just goes to show that the Greeks must have had rather interesting sex lives - and a rather surprising interest in birds......



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Iím sure the ancient Greeks were doing it, too. There really isnít anything new going on, anywhere, ever. Not as far as sex acts anyway. None of us have invented anything.
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Yea, I suspect the only new sexual activities invented in the last couple thousand years involve new technology (electricity or zero gravity or something).

Zeus was said to have seduced women in the from of satyr, swan (?), dove (?), eagle(?) Bull (!), ant (???), Female goddess, and golden shower (um..). Which just goes to show that the Greeks must have had rather interesting sex lives - and a rather surprising interest in birds......



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I’m sure the ancient Greeks were doing it, too. There really isn’t anything new going on, anywhere, ever. Not as far as sex acts anyway. None of us have invented anything.
Well, they do say "the bird is the word" LOL
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Jeez you guys are uptight about stuff. Tossing a salad isnt a big deal, you guys need to get over stuff.

100% of things about sex and kissing are disgusting, just stop pretending like the lines you draw are sacred and other people are gross, freaking pathetic.
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Jeez you guys are uptight about stuff. Tossing a salad isnt a big deal, you guys need to get over stuff.
See thatís what I mean. Thatís what they say nowadays.

It still doesnít change my thoughts about it to be scolded for not being open enough. Itís still a hard no thanks.

Whereas if someone is just into it but has no problem if Iím not and thereís no scolding, then I am fine with the fact that he or she is into it.

Itís a crazy world out there!
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'they' 'now a days' - I am in my mid 40's, tossing a salad is not a big deal.
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No to be one of those "I've got the alternative medicine solution for you" people, but there have been clinical studies that show a whole foods, plant based diet can improve the symptoms of rheumatoid arthritis. Would your wife be willing to try it?

National Institute of Health - Managing Rheumatoid Arthritis with Dietary Interventions
The nutritional route is intended to stymie inflammation. There's an entire regiment dedicated to keeping inflammation down as low as possible.

One nurse, who was doing a paper for school on arthritis compared its devastation to cancer. She just flat out called it a cancer because of its sheer destructive force on the body's structural system.

The medications are absolutely dismal for this disease. Most, if not all, of them, cause even more destruction but to the organs instead of the crumbling joints.

The best answers, in addition to nutritional support you suggest, is joint replacement. I have a cousin who has lived with this horrid condition all his life since he was a young man - and he finally started getting his joints replaced in his 50s when the operations became truly viable and he had the money to pay for them. It's the first time he's gotten to have a real shot at a pain-free life.

This is one of those diseases that if there was a possible vaccine or cure, the relief would effect millions.
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'they' 'now a days' - I am in my mid 40's, tossing a salad is not a big deal.
Same age here, also no big deal
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My theory is that it is a form of ejaculation, so men are liable to equate that with evidence of orgasm... and we know how performance oriented some men can be. If he makes ya' squirt, he doesn't get the urge to ask "didja cum?" If he can "get you to squirt," that's like the ultimate sexual validation.
There was a thread about that here once. I am a squirter and I assure you - it's urine if a woman squirts. I have to make sure I'm very empty before sex but that doesn't always make a difference.

That said, I also get very wet, which I have no idea why anyone would consider any of that hot. It's embarrassing and messes the sheets up badly. Couple that with the Oscar performance orgasm noise and you might have the reason I was picky about who I had sex with. Had to be somebody who could put up with all that. I think its weird but there's nothing I can do about it.

Seriously, it's embarrassing. In my imagination, other women are delicate and bite their lower lip gently as they hold their breath sweetly and cum. I have to be held down when it's time to

(I've been known to exaggerate slightly...)
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See thatís what I mean. Thatís what they say nowadays.

It still doesnít change my thoughts about it to be scolded for not being open enough. Itís still a hard no thanks.

Whereas if someone is just into it but has no problem if Iím not and thereís no scolding, then I am fine with the fact that he or she is into it.

Itís a crazy world out there!
I'm glad I'm reading this here.

My biggest, best O's are missionary - and they are epic enough. If (big if) I ever had to date again, that's all I would be interested in. The rest I'm sure I would simply find amusing to watch.
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'they' 'now a days' - I am in my mid 40's, tossing a salad is not a big deal.
Well there are different ways to look at things. To me, it is absolutely not a big deal if youíre talking about morals or whatever.

But we all get to decide what we like and donít like, and in that sense it may be a big deal to someone because they are so turned off by it.

Just because I am saying ew, no thanks does not mean I have any moral objection to it. I once had a guy go there when he was going down on me and I stopped all the action and said nooooooo. Then I refused to kiss him and made him take a shower, wash his face with anticeptic wash, brush his teeth and gargle with listerine, and then we could continue. Any hard no is a big deal to the person saying no.
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Well there are different ways to look at things. To me, it is absolutely not a big deal if youíre talking about morals or whatever.

But we all get to decide what we like and donít like, and in that sense it may be a big deal to someone because they are so turned off by it.

Just because I am saying ew, no thanks does not mean I have any moral objection to it. I once had a guy go there when he was going down on me and I stopped all the action and said nooooooo. Then I refused to kiss him and made him take a shower, wash his face with anticeptic wash, brush his teeth and gargle with listerine, and then we could continue. Any hard no is a big deal to the person saying no.
So, what you are saying is, we shouldn't date in some hypothetical future.

In case you didnt know, your vagina and mouth are full of bacteria, as is your skin, under your fingernails, your feet, and on and on it goes.

Your whole body is disgusting and a disease factory, sorry to break that to you.
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There was a thread about that here once. I am a squirter and I assure you - it's urine if a woman squirts. I have to make sure I'm very empty before sex but that doesn't always make a difference.

That said, I also get very wet, which I have no idea why anyone would consider any of that hot. It's embarrassing and messes the sheets up badly. Couple that with the Oscar performance orgasm noise and you might have the reason I was picky about who I had sex with. Had to be somebody who could put up with all that. I think its weird but there's nothing I can do about it.

Seriously, it's embarrassing. In my imagination, other women are delicate and bite their lower lip gently as they hold their breath sweetly and cum. I have to be held down when it's time to

(I've been known to exaggerate slightly...)
My theory about wetness is similar. Women don't have a penis that can get erect, so the signs of arousal are not so obvious... so just as orgasm is perceived to be proof of orgasm, wetness is perceived to be the most obvious sign of arousal. Right or wrong, the common male perception is that if she's wet, she's hot for me. And if wetness is considered relative to arousal, then the wetter the better. Again, it feels validating.
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@Lila am I allowed to say that he's a self-righteous ******* without getting banned?


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So, what you are saying is, we shouldn't date in some hypothetical future.

In case you didnt know, your vagina and mouth are full of bacteria, as is your skin, under your fingernails, your feet, and on and on it goes.

Your whole body is disgusting and a disease factory, sorry to break that to you.
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How is that self righteous? That is reality.
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My theory about wetness is similar. Women don't have a penis that can get erect, so the signs of arousal are not so obvious... so just as orgasm is perceived to be proof of orgasm, wetness is perceived to be the most obvious sign of arousal. Right or wrong, the common male perception is that if she's wet, she's hot for me. And if wetness is considered relative to arousal, then the wetter the better. Again, it feels validating.
An erect clit can stand up pretty big and hard when its fully erect but you're probably right about lubrication. I guess I just see other women as more delicate than I am - and that's FINE. I admire it. I've just never been a frilly person but I've pictured that as the perfect woman - thus being embarrassed that I'm not.
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