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For me it’s about much more than frequency. It’s mainly about how deeply intimate, passionate, sensual and GGG a person is. Frequency can go up or down based on a lot of factors but these attributes are always there.
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GGG is an abbreviation for “good, giving, and game.” The acronym refers to the advice that those seeking healthy sexual relationships should strive to be good in bed, willing to give equal time and energy to their partner’s pleasure, and game for anything (within reason)
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GGG is an abbreviation for “good, giving, and game.” The acronym refers to the advice that those seeking healthy sexual relationships should strive to be good in bed, willing to give equal time and energy to their partner’s pleasure, and game for anything (within reason)
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GGG is an abbreviation for “good, giving, and game.” The acronym refers to the advice that those seeking healthy sexual relationships should strive to be good in bed, willing to give equal time and energy to their partner’s pleasure, and game for anything (within reason)
GGG could also serve to validate relationship gridlock. For example if someone feels he/she is "good, giving, and game" for all things sexual within a relationship, then he/she will feel entitled to always be on the right side of an argument whenever an imbalance occurs. Meanwhile this GGG person could have some serious issues with fear of abandonment, wanting security, or struggle with being non-confrontational when he/she is deprived. To me GGG seems more like someone that is perhaps too eager to please. Hiding underneath that eagerness might be something feared that really needs to be addressed.

My advice to someone seeking a healthy sexual relationship would be someone that is open about their own struggles when it comes to learning how to be more self confident. Most people run in the opposite direction of that and try everything they know to cover it up and hide it! For men doing this it probably looks like metrosexuality on steroids!



and on the opposite end of that spectrum you might find men than enjoy hunting down the things that make them feel vulnerable and coming face to face with it:



Here a woman describes what it is like dating a rodeo cowboy and the sheer anxiety it creates... https://www.theodysseyonline.com/9-t...g-rodeo-cowboy

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Dating a cowboy would be a million times more appealing to me than a man who wears makeup.

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Here a woman describes what it is like dating a rodeo cowboy and the sheer anxiety it creates... https://www.theodysseyonline.com/9-t...g-rodeo-cowboy

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Hate to disappoint you @badsanta but this is my dream guy. I'll take this beautiful 5'7, chubby, grey beard/hair baker over the cowboy any day of the week.

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He's an A+ example of your type though. Very handsome, and is he considered chubby?

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Hate to disappoint you @badsanta but this is my dream guy. I'll take this beautiful 5'7, chubby, grey beard/hair baker over the cowboy any day of the week.

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@Lila !!! Did you see on another post (can't remember where)....my new guy looks exactly like Paul Hollywood, except he's tall! Thus his nickname, silver fox. I even showed him Paul's picture and he was like, whoa, that guy does look like me.
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He's an A+ example of your type though. Very handsome, and is he considered chubby?
He is a bit chubby but I think if he was taller it would not seem that way. He's only 5'7".
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I grew up in cowboy country. A more worthless breed of human you'll be hard pressed to find.

And even setting aside the impracticality and going just for sex appeal, they're not all Brad Pitt in A River Runs Through it or Thelma and Louise.... sometimes they're of the Brokeback Mountain variety.
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He's an A+ example of your type though. Very handsome, and is he considered chubby?
Yeah he's kind of chubby but that wouldn't stop me from attacking him every chance I got. He has an AMAZING smile!!

ETA: And did I mention he's a world renowned BAKER?! Cakes, breads, desserts....what's not to like!

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@Lila !!! Did you see on another post (can't remember where)....my new guy looks exactly like Paul Hollywood, except he's tall! Thus his nickname, silver fox. I even showed him Paul's picture and he was like, whoa, that guy does look like me.
Lawd almighty!!! Can I say I'm jealous?
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Are we all just going to post pictures of people we think are hot now?
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Yeah he's kind of chubby but that wouldn't stop me from attacking him every chance I got. He has AMAZING smile!!
And those piercing blue eyes and that thick hair (mine has the same hair, only he lets it grow past the buzz stage where Paul keeps his, which is awesome because I can grab handfuls of it).

Also Paul would bake you some fantastic amazing incredible thing for breakfast after an all nighter....or at least, that's how it turns out in my fantasies.
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The message is that people are attracted to different people - it's not like there's this singular attractive pool and everybody else just wishes they could have one of those few attractive people.

Who says that baker guy is handsome? Is he? It's a PICTURE of a guy. I'm a professional photographer. Pictures of people mean nothing about how attractive or not attractive they actually are. Photographs are fantasies.

What I see in this image is a guy who has been well-styled for a photograph.

Believe me, I'm not dissing him - he looks good here.

But in reality, people's looks aren't the only thing that matters to at least a certain percentage of us.
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Are we all just going to post pictures of people we think are hot now?
Well, I mean, at least @Lila and I are single gals. We have a bit less fun around the house ALL THE TIME like you marrieds. So sure, posts pics if you want, but seriously, you get the good stuff all day while we don't.
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