We have been married for ten years now. My wife is fantastic in so many ways she is a wonderful mother to our two small children. I run a business and she is stay at home, our eldest is at school, youngest at nursery. She is kind, funny, we dont argue in destructive ways but....
Our sex life is dead. We have sex maybe four or five times a year. It's as if the entire universe has to align for this to happen. I feel like an old man, but I'm not old. I'm in good shape, and I don't think I'm a bad catch (just being objective!). The lack of intimacy is eating at my soul, I can barely stand it. I feel sad and alone. I do so much for my family, it's no chore, I love them. I have built a business that gives me flexibility. I get up at 6am every day with my son and give him breakfast end get him ready for school. I help with everything around the house. I cook. I do spontaneous things. I come home for kids bedtime every day. I have my own interests and friends. I don't pressure for anything. This lack of intimacy has crept up on me and I have a sick, hollow feeling. There is anger and growing resentment too. It's worse becuase I find her incredibly attractive. Our physical relationship before marriage was incredible. When we do have sex now, she says she can't understand why we dont do it more often, because it's great.
I feel like I'm sinking in to a void. I feel depressed and on the verge of tears sometimes. It scares me where our marriage will end up, at some point I will break. We have talked about this many times, she agrees that the mindset needs to change, but nothing ever does, until there is another breaking point. How many breaking points do there have to be? Do I have to walk out to make it stick that our marriage needs to be a priority?
To add insult to injury, we will often have interactions that hint at sex, but then it just dies...
Help.
Our sex life is dead. We have sex maybe four or five times a year. It's as if the entire universe has to align for this to happen. I feel like an old man, but I'm not old. I'm in good shape, and I don't think I'm a bad catch (just being objective!). The lack of intimacy is eating at my soul, I can barely stand it. I feel sad and alone. I do so much for my family, it's no chore, I love them. I have built a business that gives me flexibility. I get up at 6am every day with my son and give him breakfast end get him ready for school. I help with everything around the house. I cook. I do spontaneous things. I come home for kids bedtime every day. I have my own interests and friends. I don't pressure for anything. This lack of intimacy has crept up on me and I have a sick, hollow feeling. There is anger and growing resentment too. It's worse becuase I find her incredibly attractive. Our physical relationship before marriage was incredible. When we do have sex now, she says she can't understand why we dont do it more often, because it's great.
I feel like I'm sinking in to a void. I feel depressed and on the verge of tears sometimes. It scares me where our marriage will end up, at some point I will break. We have talked about this many times, she agrees that the mindset needs to change, but nothing ever does, until there is another breaking point. How many breaking points do there have to be? Do I have to walk out to make it stick that our marriage needs to be a priority?
To add insult to injury, we will often have interactions that hint at sex, but then it just dies...
Help.