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My fiancé likes to take pictures of us during sex. I’ve never cared and even initiated it myself a few times. However, I discovered he has been sharing at least 2 of the pics online without my knowledge! They weren’t nudes but very revealing and the site is in a different language so I don’t know what it is. I know he speaks several languages and he tells me it’s a site to share your private photos with other couples like swingers etc..We used to play with another couple online (years ago) but we never took it any further than that and never showed our faces but this is the first time he’s “played” without me. I feel left out especially since it’s a foreign language like what’s the reason behind that? Should I just let it go since our faces aren’t being revealed? We have an awesome relationship otherwise.
 
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Like I mentioned before, I DID consent to sharing at least to some degree in the past because we played online with another couple. As long as our faces weren’t revealed. It’s just now that I discovered he’s been playing without me and what does it mean exactly?
 
#3 ·
If I had a picture of you taken anywhere, walking around the mall, eating in a restaurant etc I can do a picture search and find any other pictures of you on the internet.
And so can anyone else including children which you may have or intend having.
Never put something on a website that you wouldn’t want everyone to be able to see. And in some jurisdictions what your fiancé is doing is a crime.
 
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My fiancé likes to take pictures of us during sex. I’ve never cared and even initiated it myself a few times. However, I discovered he has been sharing at least 2 of the pics online without my knowledge! They weren’t nudes but very revealing and the site is in a different language so I don’t know what it is. I know he speaks several languages and he tells me it’s a site to share your private photos with other couples like swingers etc..We used to play with another couple online (years ago) but we never took it any further than that and never showed our faces but this is the first time he’s “played” without me. I feel left out especially since it’s a foreign language like what’s the reason behind that? Should I just let it go since our faces aren’t being revealed? We have an awesome relationship otherwise.
So I take it your relationship has improved since May? You posted the following..

I feel you. It’s truly devastating we hardly ever do the deed. Im only interested In having other men crave me. Now that I have one whom I’ve trained and drained i can barely look at him nude. I need several men physically but can only handle one mentally
 
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The hallmark of any relationship is inherently built on "trust!"

There apparently is a discernible absence of it here, even if it ever existed at all! No self respecting man would ever subject his wife to this!

This should be more than an eye-opener for you!
 
#17 ·
Is it possible the thought that you were OK with this? (only you can know). If he knowingly spread pictures that he knew you wouldn't want sent out, that is a bad betrayal of trust (and I think illegal)

How you react is up to you - an you alone.

You can tell him that he should have asked but its OK.

You can tell him that she should not have done it without asking and he should never do it again

You can never allow revealing pictures again and destroy the ones you have.

You can leave him or even report him to the police.


Any of these might make sense, and I think its something where only you know how you feel. If it were me (and its NOT, so my opinion has very little value), the intent would matter: was it done knowing that it would hurt me.
 
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