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post #1 of 19 (permalink) Old 11-21-2019, 06:01 AM Thread Starter
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My fiancé likes to take pictures of us during sex. I’ve never cared and even initiated it myself a few times. However, I discovered he has been sharing at least 2 of the pics online without my knowledge! They weren’t nudes but very revealing and the site is in a different language so I don’t know what it is. I know he speaks several languages and he tells me it’s a site to share your private photos with other couples like swingers etc..We used to play with another couple online (years ago) but we never took it any further than that and never showed our faces but this is the first time he’s “played” without me. I feel left out especially since it’s a foreign language like what’s the reason behind that? Should I just let it go since our faces aren’t being revealed? We have an awesome relationship otherwise.
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Really? You have an awesome relationship? So, in awesome relationships that include trust and respect it's ok to post pictures of your partner online without asking them and getting their permission first?

Follow the evidence where it leads and question everything.
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If I had a picture of you taken anywhere, walking around the mall, eating in a restaurant etc I can do a picture search and find any other pictures of you on the internet.
And so can anyone else including children which you may have or intend having.
Never put something on a website that you wouldn’t want everyone to be able to see. And in some jurisdictions what your fiancé is doing is a crime.

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I'm with the "never show your face" crowd........ never
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My fiancé likes to take pictures of us during sex. I’ve never cared and even initiated it myself a few times. However, I discovered he has been sharing at least 2 of the pics online without my knowledge! They weren’t nudes but very revealing and the site is in a different language so I don’t know what it is. I know he speaks several languages and he tells me it’s a site to share your private photos with other couples like swingers etc..We used to play with another couple online (years ago) but we never took it any further than that and never showed our faces but this is the first time he’s “played” without me. I feel left out especially since it’s a foreign language like what’s the reason behind that? Should I just let it go since our faces aren’t being revealed? We have an awesome relationship otherwise.
So I take it your relationship has improved since May? You posted the following..

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I feel you. It’s truly devastating we hardly ever do the deed. Im only interested In having other men crave me. Now that I have one whom I’ve trained and drained i can barely look at him nude. I need several men physically but can only handle one mentally
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Really? You have an awesome relationship? So, in awesome relationships that include trust and respect it's ok to post pictures of your partner online without asking them and getting their permission first?
Like I mentioned before, I DID consent to sharing at least to some degree in the past because we played online with another couple. As long as our faces weren’t revealed. It’s just now that I discovered he’s been playing without me and what does it mean exactly?
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So I take it your relationship has improved since May? You posted the following..

Holy Poop !!! Cold Busted.
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If I had a picture of you taken anywhere, walking around the mall, eating in a restaurant etc I can do a picture search and find any other pictures of you on the internet.
And so can anyone else including children which you may have or intend having.
Never put something on a website that you wouldn’t want everyone to be able to see. And in some jurisdictions what your fiancé is doing is a crime.
I’m aware of this😉, that’s why we never show our faces.
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The hallmark of any relationship is inherently built on "trust!"

There apparently is a discernible absence of it here, even if it ever existed at all! No self respecting man would ever subject his wife to this!

This should be more than an eye-opener for you!

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You reap what you sow...you “play” with other couples. You take pictures of each other having sex. Now your mad someone else might see them??? What did you really think was going to happen? You can’t be that naive
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You reap what you sow...you “play” with other couples. You take pictures of each other having sex. Now your mad someone else might see them??? What did you really think was going to happen? You can’t be that naive
""""I discovered he’s been playing without me""""""""""

I think the above is her problem ..... busted trust
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You reap what you sow...you “play” with other couples. You take pictures of each other having sex. Now your mad someone else might see them??? What did you really think was going to happen? You can’t be that naive
So in other words, "she asked for it"?????? or "she got what you deserved"?????

We've all seen that kind of thinking before. You dressed provocatively - what did you expect to happen? You went to his apartment - what did you think was going to happen?
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You reap what you sow...you “play” with other couples. You take pictures of each other having sex. Now your mad someone else might see them??? What did you really think was going to happen? You can’t be that naive
I never said I was mad because someone else might see them. I honestly could care less as long as our faces aren’t revealed. I’m just not sure why he did it behind my back. And on a foreign site. We have both enjoyed this kind of play in the past so I never expected it to go sour in any way.
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Like I mentioned before, I DID consent to sharing at least to some degree in the past because we played online with another couple. As long as our faces weren’t revealed. It’s just now that I discovered he’s been playing without me and what does it mean exactly?
It means that your relationship lacks boundaries, he feels that past permissions=current permissions, and that you can't really trust your partner.

Follow the evidence where it leads and question everything.
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So did you confront him about it ?

Telegram App has a picture burn feature with an adjustable timer......
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