Re: Encouraging Growth & Save a Marriage
IMO what is happening here is a basic state of the human condition: nothing being good enough, always wanting more, the grass is greener.
If you didn't have your wife in your life, you probably wouldn't even be having 3 times a week "bad" sex. Many other good things would also be missing from your life. You would be thinking of the good old days when you were married to your wife and having loving, even if it isn't porn worthy, sex 3 times a week with a wife who loves you.
You need to work on your character, and deal with your lack of greatfulness. Not greatfulness to your wife, but to God, the universe, whatever you believe in.
Like Diana said, your life is 95% good, and you are focusing on the 5% that could be better. You are on the precipice of disaster. Don't blow up your and your wife's life over this. You WILL regret it.