I want to stay in this marriage because we have children and a life together.
To paraphrase One so far wiser and greater than me..... verily, verily I say unto you, you have your reward....
I think he would shower and brush his teeth if I told him that.
I'm not a gambler, nor the son of a gambler, but if I was, I would wager that you're 100% correct.
I can’t bare the thought of breaking up our family but also can’t bare the thought of living a love never being touched, kissed, or loved in that way ever again.
I believe you. I also believe you are looking for hope or advice. I am now going to give you both hope, and advice.
Your problem is that you have your PRIORITIES out of order. Your priority is "family". Being touched, kissed and loved is in second rank. It's a "but also".
Now, I am going to make a radical statement. You can SOLVE this problem. And, you can solve this problem ALONE, with no help from your husband. Please don't get me wrong, I fully get it. His lack of personal hygiene is contributing to the problem, and not to the solution. But, I'm not talking to him, he isn't here. Neither you, nor I, can change him. I cannot change you, only YOU can.
This is my advice, and it is truly simple advice:
Husband FIRST. Family SECOND.
Hope FIRST. Advice SECOND.
Ownership FIRST. "(sort of)" to be eliminated.
Touched and kissed FIRST. "Breaking up" - "but also"....