We've been together over 5 years and married 2. As in most relationships sex was more frequent and varied before marriage. In the past year we have sex at best twice a month. I initiate every time and it always feels like a victory that I actually get to have sex with my wife.
I regularly give her massages of all kinds, do a lot around the house as far as chores go and try to make her life comfortable as much as possible. I'd like to have sex every day but realize that isn't practical.
Weekly would be nice but that hasn't happened in over a year.
Lately it seems that after giving her oral sex my wife just wants me to hurry up and orgasm with intercourse. She has very little interest in penetration. I actually stopped having sex with her last night because she told me to hurry up. That killed it for me. I NEED an active partner... not someone to basically jerk off into.
We talked and she stated that it's all about oral to her because she doesn't get off with penetration. That's fine... but I don't get off giving her oral either. I enjoy doing it because it brings her pleasure.
To me that would be comparable to me going down on her and sighing and looking at my wristwatch. Know what I mean?
She then complained that I don't always start off with oral sex and that is true. I often like to have intercourse, then oral for her (at least two orgasms) and then back to intercourse to my completion.
I wouldn't feel the need to initially go to intercourse if I didn't have such a need to feel skin on skin contact. She WILL NOT touch my penis for hand jobs, oral or anything. I'm a very clean person. I shower every single day. I have received MAYBE two blow jobs for less than two minutes in the last few years together. I need to be touched and often that need overrides my desire to warm her up with oral sex.
She has no sex drive and so I have to tell her "Let's turn the TV off for awhile" or "I need some attention" and pull her towards me. There is almost ALWAYS resistance and I feel like I have to talk her in to any activity.
I'm kind of losing my mind over this.
I regularly give her massages of all kinds, do a lot around the house as far as chores go and try to make her life comfortable as much as possible. I'd like to have sex every day but realize that isn't practical.
Weekly would be nice but that hasn't happened in over a year.
Lately it seems that after giving her oral sex my wife just wants me to hurry up and orgasm with intercourse. She has very little interest in penetration. I actually stopped having sex with her last night because she told me to hurry up. That killed it for me. I NEED an active partner... not someone to basically jerk off into.
We talked and she stated that it's all about oral to her because she doesn't get off with penetration. That's fine... but I don't get off giving her oral either. I enjoy doing it because it brings her pleasure.
To me that would be comparable to me going down on her and sighing and looking at my wristwatch. Know what I mean?
She then complained that I don't always start off with oral sex and that is true. I often like to have intercourse, then oral for her (at least two orgasms) and then back to intercourse to my completion.
I wouldn't feel the need to initially go to intercourse if I didn't have such a need to feel skin on skin contact. She WILL NOT touch my penis for hand jobs, oral or anything. I'm a very clean person. I shower every single day. I have received MAYBE two blow jobs for less than two minutes in the last few years together. I need to be touched and often that need overrides my desire to warm her up with oral sex.
She has no sex drive and so I have to tell her "Let's turn the TV off for awhile" or "I need some attention" and pull her towards me. There is almost ALWAYS resistance and I feel like I have to talk her in to any activity.
I'm kind of losing my mind over this.