Do you need some disquiet and rivalry in your life to find motivation to complete goals and/or feel alive?
You know, at first I thought you were thinking of someone who doesn't have enough drama in their life, so they "make up some drama" to feel the adrenaline. But I don't think that's what you're asking.
I think you are asking if we...* I * ...need some sort of goal, objective, end, or aim in order to be motivated to do my best. As an example, do I do my best work when I have nine things to do, nine hours, and no time to
around? Or does the pressure and stress "get to me" and make the me less productive?
I freely admit I have ADD and I can be easily distracted if I don't discipline my mind. Thus, for me if I have nine things to do and nine hours, I excel. At those times, I seriously get **** done! However, in no way would I want to live like that all the time--that kind of motivational stress feels like a punch in the gut to me. I prefer the peaceful life.
On the other side of that coin, when I have too much "free time" I can wander too easily. Thus, in times that are less stressful...less urgent...I very much tend to be a creature of habit. I still rise early, make my bed first thing, walk early, write a letter, get to work at a set time, and schedule my day for my own self so that I stay on track. I still act a little like * I * am micro-managing myself. I don't feel the angst/conflict (and thus don't feel the punch in the gut) but I don't get too distracted either.
I am a big walker. I aim for 10,000 steps a day which is about 5 miles, and in order to motivate myself to meet that goal, I sign up for 5k races. Now, I do NOT run! LOL
But I tell 'em up front I walk, I pay the fee, I show up and walk, and I earn the t-shirt. When I don't have a 5k coming up, I tend to be less "motivated" because I don't feel like I'm training. When I do have one coming up, I tend to be more disciplined, because in truth I am a little competitive and sporty. I have no desire to "win" but I do have a desire to compete!
Finally, if you REALLY want to motivate me and have me follow you around like a puppy forever, words of admiration. I take criticism okay, and I can and do listen and apply it to myself, but boy it hurts far more than I ever show. Criticism is like Anti-Admiration to me, and although I know it's usually said to help me be a better person, it hits my heart every time. On the other hand, Admiration is like angel music in my ears. I already don't think all that highly of myself--I work on that constantly--but if someone else says something, boy that rings in my ears like a bell all day and I feel like dancing. So if you want me to work for you day and night until the job is perfect, tell me what I'm doing right. Notice something I did that you just loved, and tell me. Yep words of admiration motivate me!