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post #31 of 65 (permalink) Old 10-22-2019, 02:01 PM Thread Starter
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I've seen more births than I can remember. The vagina is elastic, it stretches (a lot!) to accommodate a baby, yes. Does it go all the way back to what it was before? No...but...we're talking about another human being, not a big ****. Even the biggest **** known to mankind can't compete with what happens during a birth.

I had an almost 10lb baby. I also had a baby who, due to her position, was like delivering an 11lb baby. You don't want to know what I went through to push that child into this world. After I healed, I felt no difference in my enjoyment of intercourse and neither did my partner.

Regardless of that, the fact is that a big **** will stretch the vagina during intercourse and then between uses it will go back to it's original shape and size. After a while, the woman won't feel that stretch anymore similar to how on day one of your brand new exercise routine it hurts like a mother but day 30 doesn't hurt anymore. The tissues "remember" and so it doesn't hurt anymore. But the vagina will be the same size. Even an anaconda is not big enough to cause a noticeable difference in the tightness of a vagina.

What can cause a difference is age, hormones, etc. And I agree with FW...do your kegals women...it helps...and if you do them during sex, all the better...or so I've been told
I never want to see that again. I almost passed out. Then, the placenta came out. OMG barfo. Blood, and tissue and greasy baby. lol After she was clean, was enamored and smitten.


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No, you have read me wrong. My kitty hugs the puppy without me having to consciously think about it. This is because I’ve done kegels all my life in a regular setting. Not during sex. I can squeeze down on purpose during sex if I want but it’s not what I was talking about. I could never concentrate that hard during sex to be squeezing all the time (kegels actually require a lot of focus). I actually have to relax a bit so that it doesn’t hurt me at first and I’m talking about with any size, not a huge one. It takes a few minutes for me to accommodate even a very average size. This is part of why I love sex so much. It’s an adventure every time.

Now I’m not saying this is true for women who don’t do their kegels. I actually would have to hear from you guys what the difference is to how it feels to you. I don’t talk to my friends about how tight they are or if they do their kegels.

As for the worry about having a huge one and then a not so huge one and how can it feel as good? I’ve already answered that. It has to do with skill. But again I can’t speak for women who don’t have as much muscle tone as I have or their experience.

But are you saying that when you start dating someone you are going to question them about the size of previous partners or what? Because wow, I would flee the scene if any guy asked about that.
I understand you are speaking for yourself. All women are the same as all men, but all women are different. lol teasing

If your first paragraph is true, why is it women have said a man was too small? They aren't toned and they don't want to take the blame? See, what I get out of it is, there is a difference. The woman has to work on herself to be able to feel satisfaction from an average penis, after she's had a larger man.

I don't know where you answered the skill part? Please get into detail.

No, I'm saying I won't date unless I understand these things. I have already, but nothing happened. It's probably due to this stuff as well as many other things. Just wanted to try to help myself a little. Either way, I'm going to talk with my counselor about it, so no issues. Just wanted to try.
Yes a counselor would be good to discuss this with.

I just want to clarify something though. I have always done my kegels because it is a healthy practice. There was a whole decade in there during my first marriage when we basically never had sex. I did them anyway because it’s kind of like a nice workout. I simply enjoy the feeling of being nice and toned down there. I never did them “so that I could enjoy sex with an average penis”. That literally never even crossed my mind. It is only obvious now after a lifetime of doing them that it has benefited me in more ways than I ever anticipated.

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Can I ask you the reverse? If you have been with a woman who is really tight, how can you have a good experience with one who is not as tight? Even if it’s the same woman pre and post childbirth. Did you not enjoy the sex after childbirth? I honestly don’t know the answer. Any man can answer. I’ve never asked men this question and it does seem relevant.
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Once a woman has had a large man and it's taken time to stretch to insert it fully, how can she ever be satisfied with an average penis?

Yes, I know, obsessions, worries, issues, etc. Just answer the question, if you have the guts. Otherwise, don't bore me with all your accusations, please.
Once a woman has a kid's head going out of her pubic area, how can she ever feel the biggest **** on earth and/or have an orgasm???

Thankfully women have a magicbutton outside of "it" that is not afected even if she puts an entire table inside her v-place. ISNT "NATURE" PERFECT?

But when will men learn to use their pubic bone and press her magic button while pounding her to a lovelly orgasm is beyond me.

I guess thats why women are goong lesbian, lesbians aparently have mastered and even have "named" this thing, while men are reading cosmo and looking for the mythical g-spot (wich is just behind the magic button area, idk why.... roll my eyes).
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Hmm. I use to think about this because of conversations I overheard from other men. Conversations I've heard from women are usually quite different with really big ones being something of a curiosity or something to giggle about but not being taken as seriously as the men seemed to.

From personal, anecdotal experience, most women seem to get their freak on just fine with smaller units after having the big one.

I will say there seems to be a percentage of women who prefer the big one but there are also a percentage of women who like it to be smaller than average.

The largest percentage seem very good with average or just above but not really big or small.

To be fair, my measurements are apparently above the large end of average but I'm not huge and I know for a fact I have had lovers who were with really big men before me but absolutely lost their minds with me in bed.

Mrs. Conan's first husband was anomalous in the unit department, sporting a log compared to my bat and she can't get enough of me while she actually didn't enjoy sex that much with him. She actually didn't ever see what people liked so much about sex before meeting me. She liked it ok but didn't get what the big deal about it was until she was with me for a while and really started liking it.

I won't say size is totally unimportant but there are many, very important factors for sex to be good and as long as your unit isn't really small, the majority of women will have a good time with it.

Mrs. C still has to be worked up and very aroused to accept me even though she use to have something much bigger working her box.

She responds with high levels of satisfaction and I still have to be careful until she is really stretched and ready before we start moving with vigor. Once we are really into it, I can tell that she could be taking a much larger unit than I'm using because of how amazingly stretchy she can get but it doesn't make her any less pleasurable to me and I can tell by her gasps, groans and goose bumps that she is more than fine with a smaller man working his magic in her mayhem.
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I never want to see that again. I almost passed out. Then, the placenta came out. OMG barfo. Blood, and tissue and greasy baby. lol After she was clean, was enamored and smitten.
Oh God...you're the guy I have to run and catch aren't you??? I've caught a lot of babies and a lot of Dad's in my time
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Re: Controversial Topic: Women's Satisfaction

Look, this ain't that hard (HA!).

What I'm trying to say is that, sure, some men's tackle is on the ultra-light side, but at least as often, a lot of women need to tighten the belt on their Snapper.

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The question is, how can a woman feel filled after she has had a large man? Kegels must be used by a woman during sex. Early on, a young woman doesn't generally know how to use them, but the natural body function of 'hugging' takes over and she feels fuller. After a large man and the amount of time it takes for her to accommodate his size, the vagina will not likely go back to what it was. Kegels take over, but that means she has to concentrate on her muscles rather than letting her body do what comes natural, or she won't feel filled.

The proof is in your post. You take care of him. I'm not disputing that. I'm saying that you are consciously doing something to make sex better for him. I'm sure it's much appreciated. It isn't the same, though.

So, why would a woman want an average man after having a larger man? I don't know. It doesn't make any sense.
You see, she can't have as good sex if she has to think about it that much, rather than just feeling it and staying in her mental sexual state. Whatever that is in her mind. Women's biggest sexual organ is their brain. So, if she has to use her brain to think of pleasing him by using kegels, she isn't using her brain as a sex organ for an orgasm.

I hope I am starting to make some sense.
I don’t know if this will make sense or not but to me my husband “feels” huge inside me, and I look at it and think it is the largest most glorious penis I have ever seen. But in reality he is actually average sized. I think it is because I am so wildly attracted to him. Meanwhile I thought my first husband was smallish and he did nothing for me. Again in reality he was average sized and actually a similar size to my current husband. But my negative feelings about him permeated everything. For me that is the brain being the largest sex organ - it isn’t thinking about doing XYZ during the act, it is how I feel about the person overall. Same relative penis size, same vagina size, but different feelings of fullness and pleasure. I am sure some of the difference is skill, but I think it is mostly a mind thing.
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Look, this ain't that hard (HA!).

What I'm trying to say is that, sure, some men's tackle is on the ultra-light side, but at lease as often, a lot of women need to tighten the belt on their Snapper.
Yeah but that is what he circling around to; the idea that, because of a woman's previous lover(s), she might find her current one inadequate because of alleged physical changes in her sex.

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Yeah but that is what he circling around to; the idea that, because of a woman's previous lover(s), she might find her current one inadequate because of alleged physical changes in her sex.
Your previous post was clear enough without the distasteful joke. I edited it for you to prevent a thread jack. We get what you're saying.
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Your previous post was clear enough without the distasteful joke. I edited it for you to prevent a thread jack. We get what you're saying.
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Flip the question. Once a man has been with an extremely tight woman, how can he ever be satisfied with an average vagina? Is that man never going to enjoy sex again? Never have another good experience? Unlikely. Sex being good or bad doesn't rely solely on the woman's tightness. Just like sex being good or bad doesn't rely solely on the man's **** size.

My wife is the tightest person I've been with, by far. She falls into the 'extremely tight', borderline too tight, category. 3 babies using that exit changed nothing. Has sex felt good with women who came after her? Yes. In some ways it was better.

I'm above 'average' but not huge by any means. My wife has been with someone larger, does that mean she can't enjoy me? No, not at all. She has no desire for me to be larger. If anything, she'd rather a bit smaller. So that doesn't fit your hypothesis of once a woman accommodates a large penis anything smaller can't possibly be enjoyed.

Bigger isn't always better. Similarly, tighter isn't always better - for either partner.
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Yes a counselor would be good to discuss this with.

I just want to clarify something though. I have always done my kegels because it is a healthy practice. There was a whole decade in there during my first marriage when we basically never had sex. I did them anyway because it’s kind of like a nice workout. I simply enjoy the feeling of being nice and toned down there. I never did them “so that I could enjoy sex with an average penis”. That literally never even crossed my mind. It is only obvious now after a lifetime of doing them that it has benefited me in more ways than I ever anticipated.

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Can I ask you the reverse? If you have been with a woman who is really tight, how can you have a good experience with one who is not as tight? Even if it’s the same woman pre and post childbirth. Did you not enjoy the sex after childbirth? I honestly don’t know the answer. Any man can answer. I’ve never asked men this question and it does seem relevant.
Doing kegel type 'exercises' during intercourse is works magic for both... it's all good.

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Yes a counselor would be good to discuss this with.

I just want to clarify something though. I have always done my kegels because it is a healthy practice. There was a whole decade in there during my first marriage when we basically never had sex. I did them anyway because it’s kind of like a nice workout. I simply enjoy the feeling of being nice and toned down there. I never did them “so that I could enjoy sex with an average penis”. That literally never even crossed my mind. It is only obvious now after a lifetime of doing them that it has benefited me in more ways than I ever anticipated.

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Can I ask you the reverse? If you have been with a woman who is really tight, how can you have a good experience with one who is not as tight? Even if it’s the same woman pre and post childbirth. Did you not enjoy the sex after childbirth? I honestly don’t know the answer. Any man can answer. I’ve never asked men this question and it does seem relevant.
Doing kegel type 'exercises' during intercourse is works magic for both... it's all good.
No argument here! I’m just saying I don’t normally do that even though I can. The OP had thought I was saying I always do it during sex so I was clarifying about that in a prior post. He also thought I was doing kegels “just to be able to enjoy sex with an average penis” which is way far off the mark so tried to clarify that, too.

But yes deliberately doing it during sex can be fun. I’m just usually too distracted and don’t really think of it.

They can do it too and make their soldier kind of jump around inside, lol. That’s fun too.
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When the P hit the cervix and is sooo painful you have no idea. So I guess any bigger P are way less pleasant than the any average size.

Its unrelated, but just saying to ease op's mind. Dont stress yourself, op.
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For what it's worth, my first husband was quite a bit bigger than my second husband -- I felt NO "lack" with the change-over or adjustment in feeling whatsoever, and there was less than a month switch-time.

As a matter of fact, I find the feeling of intercourse with my current "smaller" husband SO much (SOOOO SO much) more enjoyable.

I read an article written by a woman who wrote, "The only thing a large penis is good for is winning Penis Contests"....I always loved the way she put that!!

It's funny that a man's size "down there" makes guys as insecure as boob size does for women -- but no one can soothe these insecurities except ourselves, it has to come from within, because just like so many woman I know who are insecure about their bodies, NOTHING has been said to the OP that he will accept or that has helped him feel better.
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