Of course I see divorced and never married people differently. They made different life choices and are in different situations. They are different. By age 35 or so you start seeing those who have been widowed, as well, and they are also different from the never married's and the divorced.
How I see it is everyone is damaged in some way. Single, divorced, widowed. Everybody. What I want to know is how that person is damaged and does their damage get along with my damage.
This would be a possible red flag for me. Not the never been married bit, but the had no kids bit. I'm in my mid-40's with grown children and a tubal ligation. I'd want to take things very slow to make sure a man like that is truly childfree and not just a late bloomer in the early stages of coming to the realization that he wants a marriage and child(ren).
I'd have to say this.
They are different and have different life experiences.
Whether or not - not being married by strong avoidance intentions, focus on career created issues (they thought were obstacles to M) or just never clicked with someone, the result is the same, the difference is there.
But so what. Barring he's an axe murderer 😁 .
Everyone has difficulties encountered and dealt with in their lives.
Difference is there, likely not better or worse, than other circumstance.
I was very much not looking to get married so young 22yo, but had been fiercely independent since 16, was out of college, traveling the world in career, and enjoying many sexual relations at the same time.
Then met DW, married w/I 4months, two sons in the next 3yrs, refocused my life, and life is good.
I was planning for at least 10 yrs of being single, it was too much fun.
I knew I hoped to provide a better family life than much of my family experiences, although not all was terrible but much was f'kd. Oh well. No worries, I got out and on with a good life the good Lord set before me.
M hasn't always been perfect, mostly my fault I'm sure, but eventually we got on an even keel and have had some great sailing with the occasional storm that passes.