As I'm from Massachusetts and spent my childhood imagining a long dinner table filled with Puritans and Indians and often dressed up as one or the other for a pageant, I think it's safe to assume what I identify as the first Thanksgiving. LOL
This year was a very strange one for me. Last Thanksgiving was the loneliest day of my life. I had asked STBXH for a divorce but we were waiting until after the holidays to make any changes for the sake of the kids. My sister was making me crazy (an annual event) and my Mom, who I usually had there to vent to about my sister, was gone. I missed her something fierce that day...I just needed a hug from her more than I've ever needed anything in my entire life.
This year wasn't lonely but it was weird and sad at times. I worked, got home at 4. I went across the street to where my kids were with STBXH and said a quick hello. Then I went to my brother's house and hung out with them for a couple hours. I didn't eat with them, as the hospital gave us dinner during my shift. Wasn't bad either...great stuffing! Then I went to see my new guy. He and I had a plan to get Chinese (as he was visiting a few different family units but not eating with anyone)but the only place open has really nasty food so we went to a nearby casino and I had pot roast which was excellent but it felt pretty hollow to me. He did end up eating with his ex inlaws and kids and so now I felt weird sitting there eating pot roast while he didn't eat. I had thought we'd be in this "no place to eat" thing together but then he ended up being included somewhere so I was all by myself.
Today I am cooking my own Thanksgiving meal. I'm very used to celebrating the day on Friday instead of Thursday...I do it every other year as I work Thanksgiving every other year. It will be strange today as well. My sister is away so she won't be driving me crazy all day and for all I've complained about her so much over the years, I'm finding I am missing her like crazy too. I think I just want my old life back right now. That will pass once the holidays end I'm sure.
That ended up being a book...sorry. I guess I just needed to get it out.
No apologies. Transitions are hard. Hell, the norm can be hard. We spent the day before Thanksgiving at the Children's Hospital near here. Traffic is fun, Peach Pass(RFID toll tag) is better. Thanksgiving traffic is ****.
I've never experienced a transition as great as yours, though. You've gone from being, "Wife of, Mother of" to being "Mother of, party of meh, one? Oh, and I'm single!" Nothing wrong with the single part. Sometimes, its fr the best.
I'm sorry you didn't find a Chinese "the day of our ships arrival . . . shall be yearly and perpetually kept as a day of Thanksgiving restaurant." Spicy Orange Peel Beef tends to be good everywhere.
Good for you! Cook whatever the hell you want for this stupid holiday! Lasagna, whatever you like. The whole family did a Low Country boil one year - shrimp, corn, sausage, and small potatoes - for Thanksgiving. This year, I did ten pounds of smoked pork shoulder.