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post #31 of 43 (permalink) Old 01-19-2020, 01:11 AM
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I guess everyone here must be several steps up from me. People are talking about traveling to other countries.

What about cost? Traveling isnít cheap is it?
Depends on what you mean by cheap. We joke in our house that it's often cheaper to go to Mexico than my in-laws who live in the bay area and we've had to make that decision several times on where we want to go. Airbnb, points/miles and currency differences have made it cheaper to go to SE Asia than Florida more than once. We also only tote one kid around which makes it easier than families who have more.

I dunno, I think it's okay that you are "not excited" to travel, but I do think you hold a bit of judgement about people who do like to travel as well.

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is a pretty judgey statement when you don't really know they reasons someone enjoys travel. My life isn't better, my priorities and personality are different and I've aligned my money and my time to reflect that. Culturally, it may seem like I'm in the majority but again, my reasons for liking travel (and where) may be totally different than what is assumed and/or displayed on social media. Know what I mean?


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It depends. I think that sometimes you learn a lot about a place just by being there. That doesn't just apply to international travel but to travel to culturally different parts of the US. Otherwise it can be easy to believe all the negative propaganda about a place.

Of course people's financial situations vary, so there are some who would like to travel but cannot. Everyone has financial limits of some sort, and they have to choose where to spend their money. I do feel that in many cases travel is a good place to spend some excess money if you have it.

Just traveling to a rural area if you grew up in a city, or vice versa is extremely interesting.


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I think it's silly close-minded and judgemental to assume your values equate to everyone else's. The travel braggart thing is virtue signaling and braggadocio, your post proves that in spades. You think you are better than someone who doesn't care to globe-trot.

I don't mind traveling as much as I despise all the bull**** you have to endure to do it. It's generally not worth it to me unless it is an unconventional style of travel where you are in charge, not some acronym govt. agency.
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I dunno, I think it's okay that you are "not excited" to travel, but I do think you hold a bit of judgement about people who do like to travel as well.
I would feel the same way about anything. If a lot of people were acting as though those who didn’t like meatloaf were weird, I’d notice that too.

Even what I consider travel is on a different level than what is described here.
I have no desire whatsoever to travel to another country, and I’m really puzzled when I hear about people traveling to places that are known to be dangerous.

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I used to enjoy travelling a lot more than I do now, but being younger and unencumbered by responsibility makes it SO much easier. When I was 18 I did the backpacking thing around Europe with almost zero planning, very poor understanding of the languages, and an extremely tight budget. I had a blast and came home very hungry. Now, the logistics of planning a day-trip for a family of five makes me want to hide under my desk until the weekend is over.

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Re: The joy of travel, or not

Iím very curious to read this entire post, and will later when I have time. Responding to the initial post-

I know a lot of people who arenít interested in traveling. Most of them have never traveled. So they really have no clue if they will enjoy it or not. The ones that actually do go ahead and try it (being forced by a 25th anniversary trip or something) usually come back and LOVED IT, and suddenly become travelers.

Some people have tried it, and donít like it. Fair enough, I agree with the OP that this should be an acceptable trait.

That being said, I would never marry someone who didnít LOVE to travel. It is too big of a part of my life and always has been. I broke up with a boyfriend once when he said he had no desire to travel. I am not compatible with non-travelers. We can be great friends, but never LTR or married.

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I guess everyone here must be several steps up from me. People are talking about traveling to other countries.

What about cost? Traveling isnít cheap is it?
When you find something you really like to do you invest money and time on it.

Because of my husband's job we receive airfare discounts and upgrades, but for lodging and food we try to find deals. I research as much as I can about a place before going. I read travel forums and find deals and discounts.

I'm a thrifty person at home. I try to save as much money as I can to be able to afford our travels, because that's something we really like to do.
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I don't mind traveling as much as I despise all the bull**** you have to endure to do it.
Yeah, me too, I like being in foreign places, but getting there is a pain. Booking, planning, planes, airports, baggage rules, searches, visas, ESTA, hotels, delays... If I could just be teleportered there I'd be more keen on it.
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When i retire from the army, I'm spending at least a couple years NOT traveling. I have already been around the world enough times. Hell, I'm "traveling" now as i type this...
Totally different, but I also had to travel quite a bit in my career when I was in my 20ís. Worked in places like the US and UK and HK and Singapore. It got so that I hated to travel - thatís when I knew I needed to quit that job.

Once I quit and stayed home for a year or two, I got the travelling itch again.
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Yeah, me too, I like being in foreign places, but getting there is a pain. Booking, planning, planes, airports, baggage rules, searches, visas, ESTA, hotels, delays... If I could just be teleportered there I'd be more keen on it.
If that stuff drives you mental, you can always book through a full-service travel company in the spot youíre going to. Thatís what we do when we go to central/south america with the kids; they take care of everything. We literally just show up, go through customs, and thereís a car waiting for us.

The converse also works - pack a small backpack, sort out your visa requirements, and just get on a plane and roll with whatever happens. Thatís the way I like to travel. Pick up a lonely planet guide and just get on a plane with no plan.

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Yeah, me too, I like being in foreign places, but getting there is a pain. Booking, planning, planes, airports, baggage rules, searches, visas, ESTA, hotels, delays... If I could just be teleportered there I'd be more keen on it.
Teleporting would be nice, at the moment I'm stuck with driving or sailing.

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I casually mentioned this to a couple of ladies at work yesterday. I told them how all the dating profiles mentioned loving to travel and “looking for adventure.” They both found it humorous and asked, “what kind of a site are you on, are these women for real?”

It does seem like anyone who posts on social media tries to look like they are living the life of a celebrity. Where is the variety of people?

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This is why getting to know people face to face (at school, work, church, hobbies, etc.) is better.

Folks can still lie, but for the most part, you see them and get to know them as they truly are.

Travel for me isn't about anyone else. I don't blog. I don't post photos or stories on social media. It's just part of who I am.

And after I typed the above sentence, I realized I post photos here. But that's genuniely to share - not to impress.

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