Join Date: Nov 2019
Location: Near Harrisonburg, VA, USA
Re: What misconceptions of adulthood did you have as a child?
When I was small (5-6) I was intimidated by all the things that adults needed to do and know. Of course, I had only made it a third of the way to adulthood so that was a bit premature. It turns out that there's plenty of time to figure stuff out before you are on your own and even if you don't know something, you can ask questions and stuff because it turns out that life's tests are open book and often collaborative.
I also thought quicksand was going to be a bigger problem than it has turned out to be. People in the cartoons and old TV shows were always falling into the stuff.
I thought that the decisions that adults made would make sense on some level but they often don't.
(Small person misconception) I knew that some people had a hard time getting through life and making ends meet and whatnot and I just expected that everyone would be working together all the time to make sure no one was hungry or cold or lonely.
That you should give and would be given the benefit of the doubt when you were married to someone. To state that another way, it would not be assumed that you were neglectful if you forgot something, that you weren't malicious if you made a mistake, that you weren't an ******* for disagreeing on a decision, etc. I thought that if you were trying to do things to make your spouse happy or to make their life easier and more fun that you would get gentle guidance on what to do better or differently.
In a lot of TV shows someone losing their job is an ever-present threat and is a hugely stressful experience. In general, if someone is going to work on time and doing work while they are there, there have been few people I've worked with that have been fired or laid off.
I had expected children to be harder to deal with than they were. My girls are moving into their pre-teen and teen years now so they might be making up for lost time soon but, seriously, we just spent today watching Avatar: The Last Airbender, going to the planetarium, studying the math they'll be taking next year, and watching Spider-Man today. They're honestly much cooler to hang out with than my ex wife. I'll miss them terribly when they move out / on.