Wife says she is in love with another man, but still loves me
Found out of Saturday my wife has fallen in love with another man, this hase been going on for 4 months.
I obviously am very upset by this we have been married for 19 years, been together 26 years and have 3 great grown up kids.
She says that she needs space to decide whether she will stay with me, leave for this other man or leave and be on here own.
The reason for these options is that apprently the other man (she says) is unlikely to leave his wife and 3 younger kids, so my reaction to that is why is she seeing him? she swears blind that there relationship has not got to the full sexual intercourse point (strange given over 4 months).
Everytime I have tried to talk to her, she says I am grilling her and cornering her.
My sister told me to stop following her around and back off, and that might start to make her think, also for me to start taking some control over this, rather than her doing this.
Then last night I did exactly that, she left in the car and came back 5 mins later and explodes at me becuase I have caused an argument between her and him (so now I am fault for that too!!)
I think she is only still with me for money, apparently he has none has debts up to his eyeballs, and suffers with issues including depression - my response to this was, what a great catch she has there!!
I have gone to stay at my sisters for a few days to give me and her space, I have also started things rolling such as setting up a seperate bank acct, so all my money goes into that rather than the joint acct.
Unless anyone can say different is there any hope for us???