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Old 02-10-2013, 06:29 AM   #1 (permalink)
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....and at what point do you decide you suspect enough to snoop? Is anything off limits? When we are married do we lose any expectation of privacy from our spouse?
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....and at what point do you decide you suspect enough to snoop? Is anything off limits? When we are married do we lose any expectation of privacy from our spouse?
There was a case here in the UK of a guy who recently went to jail for snooping on his wife - hacked into her accounts without her knowledge/permission and the law treated him like a scumbag identity thief rather than like a wronged husband. Just be careful.
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There are no secrets in a marriage, no matter what the cheating pols pass as laws. Just keep your sources hidden. You become a detective to protect your family, not to use it in court.

Why do you think you need to?
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There was a case here in the UK of a guy who recently went to jail for snooping on his wife - hacked into her accounts without her knowledge/permission and the law treated him like a scumbag identity thief rather than like a wronged husband. Just be careful.
Could you cite your source please on this one?
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Could you cite your source please on this one?
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Husband facing five years in jail after hacking wife's email - Telegraph

Actually, I presumed it was a UK case but seems to have happened in the US.
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That was an overly zealous prosecutor. It's not at all the norm. DAs have a lot more on their plates.

All charges dropped against Rochester Hills man accused of reading wife's email without permission - theoaklandpress.com
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I figured this was the one he was talking about. That's why I wanted the citation.
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Husband facing five years in jail after hacking wife's email - Telegraph

Actually, I presumed it was a UK case but seems to have happened in the US.
Seems like a case of a female prosecutor with an ax to grind and a wicked case of Prosecutorial Overreach. The law still wouldn't stop me from doing it. I just don't give a fvck about the law when it comes to things like this. Hacking my wife's e-mail prevented an emotional affair and I'm happy I did it.
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Hey guys - don't shoot the messenger. I'm just pointing out a risk.

We all have to take our own decisions in life, weighing up the risks.
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Hey guys - don't shoot the messenger. I'm just pointing out a risk.

We all have to take our own decisions in life, weighing up the risks.
Not shooting anyone, just stating what I did and how I feel about the issue.
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cavenger : The point at which you decide to snoop is a personal one. We all see things differently. What red flags have led you to the point of wanted to check things out ?

As far as anything being off limits, if you really think your are being cheated on, I feel you have to do whatever it takes (and can afford, i.e. PI) to find out the truth.

And IMO, you give up rights to privacy in a marriage. You are NOT supposed to keep secrets from your spouse. If a person wants privacy, they can always be single.
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Seems like a case of a female prosecutor with an ax to grind and a wicked case of Prosecutorial Overreach. The law still wouldn't stop me from doing it. I just don't give a fvck about the law when it comes to things like this. Hacking my wife's e-mail prevented an emotional affair and I'm happy I did it.
From a PR standpoint, I wouldn't, at all, be surprised to ultimately see the DA in this particular county summarily dismiss this assistant lady prosecutor from his office for simple dereliction of duty.

Seems like that she needs far more time under her belt serving as a public defender first, to gain a little more knowledge about research capability, empathy, as well as adhering to common-sense legal principles, in trying to do her job; all while frivelously spending the people's monetary tax-dollar resources in trying to do it!
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Hey guys - don't shoot the messenger. I'm just pointing out a risk.

We all have to take our own decisions in life, weighing up the risks.
Not shooting the messenger, but suggesting respectfully that before posting warnings as facts that all the facts get understood first as advice does influence people even on the Internet, and incomplete advice can do harm.

That one case keeps coming up, and thankfully word is beginning to get around that the case got dropped completely, and the over zealous prosecutor won't be bringing any more like it.

In fact if anything, the failure of the case and the bad notoriety it brought the prosecutor will likely give pause to anyone trying to charge a spouse like that.
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Back to the OP.

Marriages should have NO secrets.

Marriage is about loyalty. If you are lying and keeping secrets from your SO, you are not being loyal.
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Back to the OP.

Marriages should have NO secrets.

Marriage is about loyalty. If you are lying and keeping secrets from your SO, you are not being loyal.
I agree about the no secrets !! My wife has each and everyone of my user id's and passwords for the various forums i am on and i have full access to hers !?!? There is no hiding anything ...... this is my best friend and the love of my life. The woman i want to grow old with and have next to me in my grave when its time ...... why would i hide anything from her !?!?
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