Re: Snooping on spouse....what is okay?
cavenger : The point at which you decide to snoop is a personal one. We all see things differently. What red flags have led you to the point of wanted to check things out ?
As far as anything being off limits, if you really think your are being cheated on, I feel you have to do whatever it takes (and can afford, i.e. PI) to find out the truth.
And IMO, you give up rights to privacy in a marriage. You are NOT supposed to keep secrets from your spouse. If a person wants privacy, they can always be single.