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Caught her cheating...says she wants me

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My wife told me during an argument that she had an emotional affair for a couple months with some guy at the gym she works out at. this was at the end of June. Apparently this happened at the beginning of the year. At that point she told me she had no physical or emotional attraction to me but she loved me. She said that the thing with this other guy was over (he is married as well) because she felt guilty. We started counceling and she said that she was trying to work things out. I was still suspicous and put a key logger on her computer. I found facebook messages between her and the OM. The affair had been sexual for a while and they were telling eachother that they loved eachother. I called her at work and told her I found out and that I was leaving and never wanted to see her again. (we have been married for 10 years). She came home and was an emotional reck begging me to stay. Needless to say I stayed. She told me she would end it and have no contact. the next few weeks I would ask almost every day if there was any texts, calls what ever. She would say no. Then one night when she said no I said to her what if I were to tell you I know that you had. She started to cry and asked what would you do...I just sat there and she told me that they had been texting but not as much as in the past she was trying to end it but struggling. We had a pretty emotional talk and are continuing to work on the marriage. Since then she tells me she has had no contact at all but that its hard. she says that she loves me completely and sees herself with me for the rest of her life. I think I believe that she hasn't been in touch with him but I am really starting to struggle with the idea of my wife being with and having feelings for another man and if any of the things she says or does with me are real. Does anyone have any thought, encouragement, anything....I'm lost and confused.
 
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I would have helped her pack just as soon as she told me she was no longer attracted to me physically or emotionally.
Telling me that she "loved" me but was in (?) love with the other tube steak would have been enough.
Of course I have the benefit of having lived with a cheater for over twenty years and heard all the excuses from her along with some I made, myself in order to reconcile her actions.
Good Luck
 
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